Fidelity

I used to think that if I found out that my husband had cheated on me in any way, the marriage would be over. Then I started hearing about a lot of couples that had stayed together even after full blown affairs. I'm learning that I have a very hard time with forgiveness. It has helped a lot to be able to talk in class about the reasons why people have affairs or watch pornography. Although the reasons don't excuse the behavior at all, they do help with forgiveness if the spouse feels remorse for his or her past actions. It also helps with forgiveness, I am sure, when you completely love your spouse. I don't think I can even imagine that kind of love because I am single, but I have seen so many couples around me and, of course, my parents and siblings. I've seen marriages fall apart because people never understood what love really is. I've learned that loving someone isn't a state of being, it's an action. When people say "I just don't love them anymore," I think in my head, I bet you don't. They don't really understand that you have to work to love. I'm glad that I have this knowledge now so that I can use it to improve my own future marriage. I'm adding two videos below that help illustrate my point. One is a Mormon Message and the other is one of my favorite country songs.